The day at the altar is about publicly made promises to another person, an oral agreement to love another person and to become their life partner with all of the rules and standards provided by law, and sometimes the church. The history of wedding vows takes us back to the Roman Empire from 17 BC to 476 AD, when there were free marriages. During these simple times, the father of the bride would deliver the bride to the groom, and the two would vow to each other to be married. Whether you take your words from a prayer book, a repeat after me or choose to recite something deeper into the meaning, the wedding vows are the words that seal a marriage today and forever, just as they did eons ago.
Writing Wedding Vows
Now that the pressure is on to create powerful and profound words to speak at the altar on your wedding day, you need to figure out how to write them. And write them we shall. Getting caught up in the bustle of the planning, we underestimate the importance and the time writing wedding vows demands. Even a professional writer should sit down to write meaningful words that will gush with sentiment, and create a forever memory. Unlike any advice on wedding vows you have ever read before, after reading this, you will be able to confidently dip into the ink and write the language of love into your vows.
How to Write Wedding Vows
Writing wedding vows is different from anything we have ever written in a million ways, yet all so similar. It is different in all the ways that your true love is unique, and similar in all the ways we strategize to write. As you would probably guess, you must begin with an outline. Creating that outline involves something a little fun.
The Rhythm of your Wedding Vows
The first step to writing wedding vows is to spend the day on a romantic date with the one you love. During the full day you spend together, interacting, sharing conversation and coquettishly exchanging glances, make a mental note of three things about them that sparked your love and keeps you loving them everyday. You can create a rhythm and cadence to your writing with the magical number three.
Do not notice the way their dress hugs their hips or the way his pants fit tight. Notice three things about them that made you fall in love, three things you can profess publicly to the world without getting thrown out of church or embarrassing your partner. For example: note the way they humble themselves before others, the way they always selflessly put others before themselves, and the laughter they create in every conversation that tells you that you could spend an eternity with this person wanting for nothing, complete in every way, and live happily ever after.
Build Credibility in Wedding Vows
Take them to a couple different places, while observing their character, remembering how you fell in love, and what it was about this person that shoved you into a bottomless pit of limerence. Once you have those three attributes that got you this far, then you can add the first and important part of all wedding vows, the credibility. It is the why they can trust your promises. It must have credibility.
To create credibility in your speech effectively, you must speak with a tone of sincerity and write those characteristics into the wedding vows. Your wedding vows might begin like this:
At first sight, my eyes were captivated by your beauty. My soul became spellbound by the magic in yours. You won my whole heart over in its entirety with the way you selflessly share the beauty you find in every moment around you, with the way you light up the darkest of days, and the way you tirelessly love me with anticipation of absolutely nothing in return. And I am standing here before the world to shout from the rooftops and profess that you, Jane Doe, are the woman that I take under my arms, to keep close to my heart, to protect with my entire being, to provide until there is nothing left to want, and to love with exclusive devotion forever more. I promise to love you, cherish you, honor you, respect you, provide for you, and protect you in this way for all of the days of our lives until eternity has come to pass and there is nothing more.
The Magic of Three in Wedding Vows
Notice that this example of wedding vows holds the magic rhythm found in the number three. There were three things about them that expressed the reasons why in a meaningful way. Notice the cadence and tone in the phrases, such as ". . . the way you light up the darkest of days, . . . selflessly share the beauty you find in every moment [and] tirelessly love me . . ." You will find three attributes about your true love that will create your magical three.
Opening the Floor for your Wedding Vows
Now you need an attention grabber that announces your wedding vows in a sincere way, such as ". . . my eyes were captivated by your beauty, . . . my soul became spellbound by the magic in yours, [and] you won my whole heart over in its entirety . . ." Notice how these phrases seamlessly flowed right into the credibility or the reasons why. They are so closely related they might seem like part of each other in a magical six formation. However you break up your phrases, they flow in three. The three things with emotional appeal that grab your audience and build them to a peak, and the three genuine reasons why you love this other person establish emotional appeal and credibility in your wedding vows.
The Promise in your Wedding Vows
Next, you must use the credibility to bring it home with a promise. Notice that we have now divided the vows into three sections, opening, credibility, and promises. The promises of course should be to love, honor, and cherish this other person forevermore. In the example provided, you will notice that it also had its own opening: "And I am standing here before the world to shout from the rooftops and profess that you, Jane Doe, are the woman that I take under my arms, to keep close to my heart, to protect with my entire being, to provide until there is nothing left to want, and to love with exclusive devotion forever more. This opening to the promise rambled a bit and overstepped the three; however, it is a little ramble in an awkward place that stages the promise perfectly. Get creative with your ramble. Then the exemplary promise follows, "I promise to love you, cherish you, honor you, respect you, provide for you, and protect you in this way for all of the days of our lives, until eternity has come to pass and there is nothing more."
Make it Unique
Your wedding vows will be unique. They will reflect your voice and your feelings. They will flow in a pattern, beginning with the an opening line, containing all the reasons why, and closing with a promise forever and ever more. If you find more than three reasons and you feel a little creative, bring the creativity and expand however you see fit. This simple model of three is a starting ground and a fail-proof way to express your feelings in your wedding vows on that magical day.
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